• Feb 14

    My Bachelor Recap: Episode 7

    February 14, 2012 • 11:40 am

    Alright guys, it is clear that I need some warm weather excitement in my life because last night I was drooling over every single date Ben and the girls went on! Everything they did was so up my alley- I want to go shark diving and pick up a tarantula (not even kidding!). 

    And while this episode was making me realize how sunshine deprived I am, it was also such a tease because we all had the small hope that Courtney might be gone for good, only to have our hopes crushed! The truth is, even though she seems psycho on the show, she does make for good TV. People like to watch the train wreck and as much we all think we want her out of there, the show might be a little boring without the drama. 

    I’m sure a lot of you are also wondering how Ben could go through this process and not realize what Courtney’s really like. Well, I can tell you, until you’ve been on the show you can’t judge his decisions. When you’re on the show you loose yourself, your sense of normalcy and reason… you’re only talking to producers and you’re on this journey with the same, small group of people for months. Basically, it’s normal that he’s not seeing how crazy she is. And, if he does pick Courtney- it doesn’t really matter! They’ll be together for a short amount of time and then end up with other people anyways. 

    This week I was reflecting on my journey as I was watching, and I remembered being totally ga-ga for my final four guys. The interesting thing is, I don’t really see that from Ben. Maybe he’s just really good at hiding his emotions, or maybe the right girl just isn’t there for him. Personally, I don’t see him falling for anyone at this point- I see that look of love when the girls look at him, but I don’t see it from Ben… what do you think? 

    In terms of who we have left- you guys know, I LOVE Kacie B. I almost spit out my wine when she called Courtney a b*tch- I love her more and more every week. And while she’s got my vote, I think it will be Courtney and Lindzi in the final two. And I am NOT reading spoilers, those are my own opinions. Who do you predict for final two? 

    The more I watch this season, the more I get into it, but at the end of the day, if you ask me, it doesn’t really matter who Ben picks. Speaking from experience, he will be fine regardless. Things will evolve, hopefully he’ll stay friends with the other girls from the show (as I’ve done) and things will work out for him when the timing is right. Viewers tend to forget that the people on the show are not the only people in the world, but the truth is Ben’s gal might not be there! That’s fine! This is entertainment, and like any other show there has to be a climax- that’s what the ring and engagement are for. 

    So, what did you think of last night’s episode? Were you sad to see Rachel and Emily go?!

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  • Feb 13

    Your Valentine's Day Stories

    February 13, 2012 • 6:00 am



    I have to tell you guys, I had the best time reading your Valentine’s Day stories for the Valentine’s Day Giveaway. You had me laughing AND tearing up- I’m so impressed!

    More than anything, you fabulous gals reminded me that it’s a holiday about LOVE- romantic or not- so cheers to that! I thought I’d share my favorite stories with everyone, so here’s the good, the bad and the hilarious:

    The GOOD:

    Margaret L- My best Valentine's Day was when my boyfriend surprised me with homemade fortune cookies (my jaw practically dropped when I found out he baked them), each one having a special note inside.

    Hannah Colclazier - When I was 20 I studied abroad in France. When Valentine's Day rolled around, two of my girlfriends and I decided to hop on a train and just pick a place to go for the day. We ended up in Vichy, France which is a gorgeous old spa town. We we to the local fromagerie (cheese store), bought fresh baguettes and went to a restaurant for some champagne. I still have the photo of us framed in my apartment. Although all three of us are now in happy relationships and living in Washington DC, Chicago, and Oklahoma City, we always call eachother on Valentine's Day! It's still my favorite one!

    Laura Hammond - Sometimes a single girl needs to take Valentine's day into her own hands to make it special! I was recently single and although disappointed I didn't have a partner to celebrate with so my girlfriends and I made it special for eachother. The day started with brunch and shopping. A friend dropped off a bottle of red wine and chocolate as a Valentine's suprise. The evening included a group of great gals getting together to eat gourmet grilled cheese and home made sweet potatoe fries, good red wine and dark chocolate for dessert while watching The Devil Wears Prada. It was the perfect day full of laughs, hugs, old stories and new memories. As one of my favorite Sex and the City Quotes goes:

    " maybe we could be each others soul mates. And then we could just let men be just these great nice guys to have fun with."

    This line is certainly true in my group of friends, the best Valentine's dates ever

    Kristin S - My best? About 10 years ago a friend's husband organized an amazing night for a bunch of us single women. They hosted us at their home. Her husband and sons served a formal dinner to us and then disappeared while we had fun, girlie conversation. After dinner we all moved to the living room where we watched chick flicks, gave each other massages and pedis, wrote letters to my friend's nephew serving with the military in the Middle East, and just had fun girl time.

    As a single woman, this was a great way to redeem a "holiday" that feels like and in-your-face slam that you are ALONE. :-) I'll never forget that night. I felt valued and appreciated and not invisible. It was also a great example to her sons by her husband of how to treat women well.

    Stefanie Marsh- My best Valentine memory was when I was 8 yrs old and my dad gotme a single red rose. He is not an overly affectionate person and it meant the world to me to receive that. I am now 31 yrs old and still remember that rose from him as being one of the most genuine i have received.

    The BAD:

    Connie Meulemans -Worst Valentines Day was my freshman year in college. The guy I was dating broke up with me the day before, then sent me flowers having me think maybe he was rethinking his decision, by writing on the note, "so sorry see you later?". So later there was a band on campus I go and what do I see...him with another woman! Guess he wanted to make sure his message was crystal clear. Totally craptastic night :(

    Sarah Nixon-Miller - My WORST Valentine's Day was when I went out on a date with this guy that I had been crushing over and he showed up wearing his Father's suit...it was an old, stuffy suit, with patches on the elbows to boot! It turns out this guy had zero experience in the dating department and was trying his best, which only made me feel bad for him. He took me to this expensive restaurant and ordered salmon bisque off the menu (which in my books reall means salmon soup - yuck!) and I asked him if he knew what it was. He claimed he did, only to have it arrive and for him to be disgusted by it. The restaurant was very private and dim, great for a romantic couple, not so great for a first date - AWKWARD! When the bill arrived he actually asked me how much tip he should leave by telling me the amount of the bill...what a total first date faux pas...I appreciated him footing the bill, but did he have to not-so-discreetly drop the bomb on the bill amount? $150 for a first date meal did seem a bit much, but he picked the restaurant. We ended up having a short term relationship after that and he turned out to be a wonderful person, just didn't have much sense in the dating department, poor fella!

    Jody Slesser - I had been dating a guy for a couple months and I was very excited to have a Valentine's Day date because I had been single for years! My thoughts about the guy was that he was nice but a little 'all about himself'. Apparently he waited until the most lovey dovey day of the year to show me his true colours. Let's call him 'Dave'.

    Dave and I decided we would go out for dinner on Valentine's Day and then just hang out and watch a movie. I get a text in the afternoon from Dave to say that he will be a bit late because he has to go get his hair cut. Well after the longest hair cut ever, he comes strolling into my apartment at 9 pm like it's okay. He doesn't even come in with as little as a Valentine's Day card. I let it slide but I was upset.

    We sat around and chatted for a bit and then decided to go get some munchies at the convenience store and get a movie. We get to the movie store and I had absolutetly no say in what movie we got. Everything I suggested (not even chick-flicks) was 'dumb'. *Sigh* Next we move on to the convenience store. He ran in to grab snacks quick and came out with chocolate milk and ice cream. I'm lactose intolerant. By that point there was no way I was letting someone treat me like I'm inferior and don't matter.

    I took the movie and walked in ahead of him to my apartment to ensure I had time to lock him out :)

    Colette Lynch - I reallllly liked this guy I had met online, but things had been sort of shady right from the get go. Basically this man had a flashing light over his head telling me to walk away, quickly.

    I've never been great at reading signs, maybe I need glasses, but he was getting extra chances everywhere, and so really I can only blame myself??

    We made plans for Valentines day, he would cook me dinner, I would bring wine. Really casual, no fancy dinner reservations, and certainly no gifts. Seems harmless enough right? Well in response to his "sometime around 7pm" vague text message I left my house close to 6. I texted him for his address, no answer. I called him for his address. No answer. I kept driving. Wondering if maybe he was in the shower, had popped out for an ingredient he had forgotten... I got all the way to his neighbourhood. A full hours drive, before I realized I was getting the official blow off. Ouch.

    Thank goodness it was during the Olympics. I turned my car back around and went to meet girlfriends for what turned out to be one of the best nights of my life. We met Olympic hockey broadcasters at the bar in the Sutton Place Hotel, saw awesome fireworks at the BC Pavillion, partied the night away at the Irish House, and definitely gave out a few numbers.
    Let's just say when he texted me with an apology TWO WEEKS LATER during the Gold Medal Game, I didn't respond!

    And the HILARIOUS:

    Rachel Vaughn- Worst= last year. Flowers were delivered to me, by someone I assumed was my boyfriend. Turned out they were delivered to me by mistake, so the delivery person came back and asked for them back. So awkward!

    Laura Smith bielefeld - worst valentines gift, a boyfriend who got me a teapot. i dont drink tea.

    Monti S - Worst Valentine ever. First year university was so in love with this guy, like swooning, thinking and dreaming. I was looking forward to V-day thinking he would be the romantic, flowers and a glint in his eye Romeo. Not only did the hours tick by with no word, no sign, he showed up at the end of the day and gave me.... A cigar. A cigar for Valentine's Day.

    Ashleigh Kuykendall - My WORST Valentine's Day is definitely the year I was a Freshman in high school. (This was also my first Valentine's Day with a "boyfriend") He got me a GIANT stuffed animal that was a strange mix between a raccoon and a tiger, and I was mortified to have to carry it around with me all day long.

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  • Feb 10

    New Improvements on JillianHarris.com!

    February 10, 2012 • 9:58 am

    Hey guys! I am so excited to welcome you to the new and improved JillianHarris.com! There are a few awesome changes that I want to walk you through.

    Let's start off with the new login system... Now all you have to do is click the "Login" button at the top right of the page:

    This will take you to a new page, where you can either login using your email or other social networking accounts. This is now a one-click process, which is fabulous! And if you already had an existing JillianHarris.com profile don't stress- your login is still the same, the process is just easier now!

    After you login, you will be taken to your profile page.

    You can update your status like I do:


    And  you can share a little about yourself and answer my NEW profile questions! If you already had a JillianHarris.com profile before, you'll need to answer these fabulous new questions since they're different than your previous profile.


    You can add photos, videos and "Friends" too!

    6847666243:Yahoo:photoAnd there we have it folks! And while we're talking about the site- leave me a comment telling me what kind of posts you'd like more of! 

  • Feb 10

    Food Friday: Go Meatless Next Monday!

    February 10, 2012 • 6:00 am

    Hi guys! This week for Food Friday I’ve got a challenge for you. I recently received an email from the Humane Society of America about Meatless Monday- have you heard of it?

    It’s pretty simple, but once a week you take a holiday from meat, for the sake of your health, the environment and, of course, the animals.

    Here’s a video with more information: 

    I always try to be aware of where my food comes from, and it’s so important to consider the animal that sacrificed its life for that burger of yours. And while you might not be able to go full vegetarian, challenging yourself once a week is an easy way to join the cause.

    I LOVE the idea and I’m definitely doing this next Monday. If you need some vegetarian recipes to try out, here are some of my own veggie-tastic recipes:

    -Cream of Vegetable Soup (substitute your chicken broth)

    -French Onion Soup (again- use a veggie broth instead of beef)

    -Bruschetta Pasta

    -Beet and Apple Salad

    -Grilled Peach Salad

    -Grilled Caesar Salad

    -Carol’s Watermelon Salad

    -Roasted Grapefruit

    -Wisconsin Cheesy Garlic Mashed Potatoes

    You could also substitute veggies or tofu for any of my recipes that use meat!

    What do you think- are you in?! And, if you have any vegetarian recipes you love, share them below!


  • Feb 09

    I'm Over You, Valentine's Day

    February 9, 2012 • 1:00 pm


    I’m going to be honest with you guys: earlier this week I was drafting a blog on the perfect dinner to cook for your valentine and I just couldn’t get into it. The truth is, Valentine’s Day and I just don’t have the best track record. I really AM a romantic (kind of) but throughout the years, the guys in my life have always thought I was NOT a romantic because I'm so independent and stubborn… and I get uncontrollable giggles if a guy is too mushy with me.

    But this doesn't mean I don't want treats on Valentine’s Day too! I've heard girls say “who needs a gift on Valentine’s Day if you’re really in love with someone?" and, well, I get it – if you’re getting mushy love notes all year long and you’re into that sort of thing, then ok, you don't need a built-in holiday because your guy is so amazing that every day is like Valentines Day!

    But, alas, that is not my kind of guy (and I am ok with this) so, on that ONE day of the year, I would like my super stubborn, independent, scruffy manly man (whom I actually don't have yet…) to treat me to a little something. Breaky in bed, a homemade card, a new truck… you know – the usual! Hahaha!  

    And, I have to say, in the last five years I have only received ONE gift for Valentine’s Day, which was from one of my twitter followers Bill, who got me a Starbucks gift card (I thought that was SO sweet). Last Valentine’s Day I went out for dinner with an ex and we SPLIT THE BILL!!! Seriously. I have the worst taste in men, clearly!

    But if I DID have a guy who recognized how cool I was on Valentine’s Day, I probably wouldn't make him dinner. I would order take out, eat it and then bring him and a bottle of Veuve to bed!

    Hope that’s happening for someone out there this Valentine’s Day!

    How do you feel about the holiday? Fill me in below.

  • Feb 08

    First Date Dos and Don'ts

    February 8, 2012 • 6:00 am

    Okay, so you creeped that guy’s Tingle profile for weeks and finally sent him a message, you had a great phone conversation and have agreed to meet. Things really clicked so you’re meeting at a restaurant for a lovely romantic dinner. Here’s how to navigate that evening successfully and maximize your enjoyment and amplify his interest!

    DON’T: Be late
    Guys are even more uncomfortable than women when left alone in a hopping restaurant. If you’re running behind send him a text message, and if you’re really behind schedule ask him what he’s wearing and then call the restaurant and have the bartender bring him a drink -- on you.

    DO: Pay him a compliment
    Want to get your date to relax and slide into normal conversation? Break the ice with a small tangential compliment. It doesn’t mean you’re going to marry the guy, and he won’t interpret it that way, but it will help calm the nerves for both of you, as you’re quite likely to receive a compliment in return.

    DON’T: Talk about a former relationship
    Much of our lives are lived during past relationships, and tempting though it might be to share interesting stories, now is not the time. Don’t allow a guy who you don’t even think of anymore to interfere in building something new with a guy you’re thinking about a lot.

    DO: Order a real meal
    Order something delicious to eat, using his meal order as a cue. Don’t just peck at an appetizer salad – he’ll think you’re hung up on food. Don’t take this as a license to go crazy, however, as he’ll think you’re taking advantage of his chivalry in paying for the meal. If you can’t eat everything on your plate, offer to share – it’ll create intimacy.

    DON’T: Play with your phone
    Just because you met using a mobile dating app doesn’t give you license to tweet and text and Facebook with your friends throughout the date. If his company alone isn’t enough to sustain your interest, why are you with him?

    DO: Be true to yourself
    There are plenty of fish in the sea, so share the real you with this person. Be self-effacing but not self-critical. And if you find yourself on a date or in a conversation that’s going nowhere, pull the plug and be honest. You owe it to him, too. Last week we gave you tips on how to dump a downer date so you can use one of these if appropriate.

    DON’T: Leave the table to go and smoke
    If he doesn’t smoke but you do, you’re in a tough spot. You can’t leave him sitting alone to go have a cigarette, so instead invite him to come with you and take your wine glasses to the patio. If he won’t come with you, then you’ll either be stocking up on nicotine patches or this thing isn’t likely to work out.

    DO: Have fun and relax
    Dating is fun! Chill out, find out about him, and encourage him to tell funny and embarrassing personal stories that you can laugh at together. You’re not there to administer a quiz or run his attributes against a checklist. Even if there’s no immediate love connection you can still have fun as long as you’re open to friendship – and why shouldn’t you be?

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