I always love reporting back to you guys about The Bachelorette. This week, I did something different and LIVE STREAMED through PERISCOPE (you must download and add me! It’s SO addicting!) If you want to watch my real life live stream … you can still watch it for 24 hours or… I added it here.
But for those of you who still love to read, here are my coles notes.
GAHHHHH Nick. Ok listen. Did Kaitlyn make a mistake gettin’ down before the fantasy suites? Maybe. But if YOU have NEVER made one of these spur of the moment rash decisions in your life, you really can’t judge. I mean their chemistry was undeniable, and while the two of them are grown adults able to make their own call … I can guarantee you there was SOME coaching behind the scenes to go back to the room … and to have some ‘privacy’ in her bedroom. I’ll bet neither one of them intended on it going that far, but it did, and honestly that is their perogative. I don’t care about the ‘RULES’ or really about the other guys. It sounds SUPER rash and mean but I look at it this way. SHE IS LOOKING FOR HER FOREVER. The only rules are she MUST follow her heart along the way and do what SHE feels is necessary to find that person … and SOMETIMES (AND I SPEAK FROM VERY STRONG EXPERIENCE) making MISTAKES brings you closer to what you are looking for.
Being on the show taught me a lot of things about myself, but most importantly, I realized that JUDGING really gets you nowhere. It just breeds negativity in your life, makes you look judgmental and makes the person your directing your opinions on, feel like shit. And making people feel like shit does not ‘teach them a lesson’ … it just makes them feel like shit. That’s all. If you really want to make an impact, react with love, kindness, understanding and an open mind.
I understand this move Kaitlyn made is going to hurt the guys … and THAT SUCKS. BUT THIS, THE BACHELORETTE is a TV SHOW, where you put your heart, soul and life on display with 25 other men. Even though the emotions are real, it really isn’t real life. You do things you wouldn’t normally do in real life because of the timeline and quantity of people involved at one time. You act a bit ‘different’ because you are under stress, pressure, you are away from the things that make you feel whole. You don’t have a phone, your family, your routine. You are just flying by the seat of your pants literally reminding yourself everyday to do the best you can.
I am SO grateful for the mistakes I have made in my life. They have made me humble, they have made me less judgmental, they have taught me what I want and don’t want. They have allowed me to forgive, love myself and learn to trust myself.
If Kaitlin doesn’t end up with Nick … then there might be a hurt man at the end of this. My words to him … THIS show, has brought you the woman of your dreams. Life is about to get really fricken awesome with this hilarious fun loving beauty. But ‘the show’ also comes with some thorns. The ‘process’ is a complete mind fu#& and TRUE success at the end is realizing this and putting your blinders on until its all over. TRUST the LOVE and nothing else.
Le sigh. Ok what else. Oh Ya. If Ian is the Bachelor I literally will NEVER watch again … and lastly IRELANDDDDDDDD I’ve been twice and its one of the most magical places on the planet. LOVE LOVE LOVE.