THE JH SHOP

Jilly’s Favorite Things

Meet Team Jilly

Girls just want to have fun! Meet Jillian and the girls (plus one guy and two dogs) behind the brand and get to know the team behind JillianHarris.com

Meet Jilly + The team

Shop My Latest

COLLABORATIONS

Shop Now

SEarch

Artboard 2

shop the presets

#JILLYPRESETS

And edit your photos like Jill - in just one click!

get the insta-famous

Stay in the loop on all things Jilly! Be the first to receive exclusive content, hear about upcoming collaborations, sales and much more!

Get the Jilly Newsletter

New Post Updates

Collaborations

VIP-Exclusive Content

Visit the shop

navigate

all things LOVE, fashion, family, food, and home decor since 2009

11

Mar

2015

Jillian Harris

Wedding Planning With Desiree Hartsock

With all of the Bachelor and Bachelorette talk going around, I’ve asked Desiree Hartsock to share her tips on wedding planning and of course all of the GORGEOUS pictures from her very own Bachelorette Wedding….take it from here Desiree!!!!!!!

Getting engaged is one of the most exciting times in a couple’s life. The anticipation and joy is euphoric, but there’s a lot more that goes into wedding planning than just saying yes.

There’s books and magazines to help you choose your style, dress, décor and flowers, but making those decisions mutually with financial limits and family member requests can become a much larger job than one had thought.

Have no fear… I am breaking down stress-free ways to get through wedding planning so that your special day can be relaxed and memorable.

The Bachelorette_Desiree Hartsock3The Bachelorette_Desiree Hartsock Wedding 1The Bachelorette_Desiree Hartsock WeddingDesiree HartsockThe Bachelorette_Desiree Hartsock

Get Inspired
I’m sure as a little girl you dreamt of your big day, maybe you even have a binder of clippings and pictures from decades ago, but now that your wedding day is near it’s important to get your thoughts and ideas narrowed down.

Check out my website DesireeHartsock.com for real wedding inspiration or try fun sites like Lover.ly and Pinterest for specific ideas on items needed.  Figure out the style/ theme you both would like for your wedding then base the details around that.

Get Organized
It’s great to have a breakdown of the items needed for your wedding. Everything from flowers to transportation and travel will need to be figured out so work out what items each of you would like to tackle.  I liked ‘The Knot’s Ultimate Planner & Organizer’ and their ‘Book of Wedding Lists’ to stay on top of everything.

Break it up
Make sure to break up the wedding planning with date nights and other memories with your loved one. Depending on the wedding date you choose, it could be 6-12 months of wedding planning so don’t spend every second talking about the wedding.

Create moments that will build on the relationship to start marriage off on the right track. If your man is over all the planning, stop talking about it for a night and surprise him with a date. It can make all the difference in how the rest of the planning will go.

Communicate
Just like in a relationship, communication is going to be key in having a stress-free experience with wedding planning. That is, communicating what is going on in the planning with your partner and communicating your ideas in detail with your planner and vendors. Also, it may mean being vocal about family members interest in helping, ideas offered and bridesmaid’s opinions on dresses.

Remember it is your day so it is ok to politely ask for help if needed or ask for space if needed. Whichever one that will offer a more relaxed environment for making decisions.

Be Decisive… B..E..Decisive
Yes, there are a million different directions you can go when choosing colors, flowers, décor, and locations, but in order to stay relaxed you will need to be decisive in your planning.

Don’t make decisions based off of what you think other people will like or what you’re being pressured to like by friends and family. Most important thing I did throughout wedding planning was trust my gut instinct. At first I was between colors and ideas, but the moment I let go of any pressure I was able to completely make decisions based off of what I liked. When you go with your gut, there’s no doubt in the decision made.

Stay in Budget
It’s extremely easy to go beyond the boundaries you set for yourselves while wedding planning. The costs can creep up on you and before you know it you’re over budget. Make a list in order of importance for items needed for the wedding, and budget accordingly. Talk to vendors and give them your number allotted for that certain thing and see what they can do to stay within that. There are definitely ways to achieve the look you want for less so don’t be afraid to ask vendors how.

Leave it to the Experts
Wedding vendors are specialized in their skill for a reason so let them do what they know without micromanaging them. Listen to what they have to say about past experience and ideas. They have seen many weddings so ask them questions too, like the best flower choices for the season and if there’s anything they would do different with your ideas.

Focus on the BIG picture
The main objective of your wedding should be the love and vows you share with your partner, not the hope to be featured in a magazine or the perfect shade of pink. Focus on the larger picture while planning and try not to get too caught up in the tiny details. Guests will remember the ceremony and the dance party so don’t stress too much about the things that are being taken care of by vendors or appointed family members. It all comes together no matter what.

Roll with it
Not everything will go exactly as planned, so if you can accept that now then it will make matters much easier to handle when they don’t happen perfectly the day of.

For instance, a few days before our wedding my dad was showing me his suit and realized that they forgot to pack his pants for the suit jacket! After a 3 hour trip to find a matching color pant, a self inflicted car wreck with a pole, and an hour of hand hemming his pants the night before the wedding, it all worked out.

Wedding planning should be a fun and stress-free time for a couple so take it all in stride and enjoy every moment.

Desiree Floral WeddingDesiree Hartsock Wedding Desiree Hartsock Wedding Table The Bachelorette Desiree Hartsock The Bachelorette_Desiree Hartsock2 Desiree Hartsock Wedding

signature copy 2

Add Comment

6

show / 

 hide comments

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

  1. Meg says:

    Can’t believe this wasn’t televised!!!

  2. Colleen B. says:

    Her dress is spectacular!!! Congrats to the lovely couple.

  3. Emilie Clarke says:

    OMG SO pretty! Congratulations Desiree! ❤❤❤

  4. Brandon Kidd says:

    Thanks so much for sharing our photos from Des and Chris’ wedding day! We absolutely love the two of them and it was such a fun and beautiful day!

  5. Kristi Craig says:

    Seeing all these photos makes me want to get married all over again!

    Kristi
    http://www.beloverly.com

  6. Gayle says:

    I’m so happy she and Chris found one another, and really disappointed that ABC didn’t televise the wedding, unless they (Chris and Des) asked for it not to be filmed. What a gorgeous bride, and I loved her soft pink/cream colors. Dress was stunning!! Another happy Bachelor/Bachelorette couple here in Seattle!!! Our numbers are growing here in the Pac NW of Bachelor Nation alumni!!!

binge ALL the latest JH posts

THE JH SHOP

Jilly's Favourite Things

see more in the shop

Artboard 2

GET THE
JILLY NEWSLETTER

Stay in the loop on all things Jilly! Be the first to receive exclusive content, hear about upcoming collaborations, sales and much more!

New Post Updates

Collaborations

VIP-Exclusive Content

Sort by:

life

Food

Fashion

HOME

Travel

Beauty

All

All-Time Favourites

Baby

How to be a better ally with Coach Carey

View the post

Good morning everyone!! I am overjoyed to welcome today’s blog contributor … drum roll, please … Raia ‘Coach’ Carey! Raia and I just recently connected at this year’s virtual Atelier conference. I was so captivated by Raia’s session, her positive energy was contagious and the discussion was captivating! At that moment, I knew I had […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

Peggy's Journey with Mental Health and Wellness

02

Bipoc Accounts We Are Loving

03

Team Jilly and The Birds Papaya

04

Team Jilly Headquarters Update

05

Maple Glazed Bite Sized Salmon Recipe

View the post

A few weeks ago, Justin and I were finally able to sneak in a little date night away from the kids! We went to the Indigenous World Winery (right in our Kelowna backyard), the wine and the food were seriously out of this world! The food was so delicious that I had to reach out […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

Peggy's Green Smoothie Recipe

02

Pink Potato Soup Recipe

03

04

05

View the post

Hey everyone! It’s Peggy, I know … can you believe it?! I am back on the blog again! At this rate, you would think I am a professional blogger! LOL! After a highly requested outfit round-up, I am back today to share a closet staple that I can’t live without, capris! I love capris! I […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

Nordstrom Anniversary Sale 2020

02

Nordstrom Anniversary Sale 2020

03

04

05

Leo's Star Wars Bedroom Update

View the post

After Justin, Leo, Annie, and I got back from our trip to Disneyland, Leo was suddenly obsessed with all things Star Wars. I mean, how could he not be?! The Star Wars: Galaxy’s Edge attraction felt like we were transported right out of Disneyland and onto the set of the movie! So it goes without […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

The Ultimate Man Cave Reveal

02

Digital Prints to Refresh Your Space

03

Outdoor Dining Room Set-Up

04

Saje Wellness and Jillian Harris Diffuser Launch

05

Baby Sleep Training Schedule

View the post

Good morning everyone!! Some of you that have followed me on Instagram for a while know that we practically started sleep training Leo as soon as he was born. I was heading back to work after just six short weeks and didn’t have much of a maternity leave; because of that, I desperately needed him to […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

Jillian Harris and Family

02

03

Leo & Annie's Book Club: Bedtime Favourites

04

Sibling Fighting: Just as painful as nails on a chalkboard!

05

Kaitlin Does My Makeup: Her Favourite Tips, Tricks, & How-To's

View the post

Kaitlin and I are SO EXCITED to finally share this tutorial with you today!! As many of you know, Kaitlin Hargreaves is my Makeup Artist on set of Love It Or List It and on our big shoot days! I’ve known Kaitlin for seven years now and she’s the only one that I trust to […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

Jillian Harris Natural Deodorant

02

Jillian Harris Every Day Cruelty Free Makeup Tutorial

03

Jillian Harris Young Living DIY Body Scrub

04

Jillian Harris and Erin Sousa DIY Rose Honey Brown Sugar Lip Scrub

05

Mental Health Questions and Answers with Peggy

View the post

Hi everyone!! It’s Jillian’s mama Peggy, and I am SO excited to be back on here today! A few weeks ago, I shared my mental health and wellness journey with all of you and the positive messages and comments were overwhelming! Thank you from the bottom of my heart to each one of you that […]

01

FEATURED POSTS

Peggy's Journey with Mental Health and Wellness

02

Love for Lewiston

03

Jillian and Justin Properties

04

Jillian Harris Pastic Free July

05